When you've done the work....
but still feel stuck

Psychological therapy for people who are used to being the capable one

Specialist CBT and EMDR for thoughtful, highly responsible adults, particularly therapists, healthcare professionals, leaders and other people who are usually the one holding everything together.

Online across the UK and in person in Norwich.

Start with a Clarity & Direction Consultation

You understand your patterns.

You’ve reflected, read and tried to make sense of things, but something still isn’t shifting.

You may be the person others trust, depend on or come to for support. You appear capable from the outside while privately living with overthinking, exhaustion, self-doubt or the fear that you have somehow got something wrong.

Often, the problem is not a lack of insight. It is the pressure to remain good, helpful, capable and responsible, at almost any cost.

This is what I call The Good Person Trap®.

I offer focused, structured psychological therapy for people caught in patterns of obsessive doubt, over-responsibility, perfectionism, shame and burnout - often alongside trauma or neurodivergence.

This is thoughtful, collaborative work designed to create meaningful change at a pace you can genuinely sustain.

The Good Person Trap®

Name: Becky Grace CBT & EMDR Therapist | Eating Disorders & Trauma | Norwich & Online
Address: 44-48 Magdalen Street, Norwich, ENG, NR3 1JU, GB
Telephone: 07466 472294

When goodness becomes connected to safety

The Good Person Trap® describes a pattern in which being good is no longer simply something you value. It becomes something you feel you must continually demonstrate in order to remain safe, acceptable or worthy.

You may feel compelled to:

Prevent harm or distress
Anticipate everybody’s needs
Make the “right” decision
Explain yourself until you cannot be misunderstood
Remain endlessly patient and accommodating
Avoid appearing selfish, difficult or irresponsible
Carry more than your fair share

Because this pattern is organised around identity and safety, ordinary advice about boundaries or self-care may not reach it. Saying no does not merely feel uncomfortable, it can feel morally dangerous.

Our work is not about making you care less.

It is about helping you retain your values without being governed by fear, compulsion and chronic self-abandonment.

Who I work with

I work particularly with therapists, healthcare professionals and other thoughtful, highly responsible adults.

Many of my clients are excellent at understanding and supporting other people. They may be professionally capable, psychologically informed and dependable in a crisis, while finding it much harder to recognise their own limits or allow themselves to need support.

“I felt able to trust the process and recover at a natural pace.”

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For the people who are usually holding everything together

You are competent and capable, but privately struggling.
You feel unusually responsible for other people's feelings, needs or reactions.
You repeatedly review conversations, decisions or whether you've done the “right” thing.
You over-prepare, over-explain or work harder than situations actually require.
Rest, boundaries or disappointing somebody can bring disproportionate guilt.
You understand yourself intellectually, but can't seem to think your way free.

The common thread isn't a particular profession or diagnosis. It's being accustomed to carrying responsibility, and wanting a different way to live without becoming less caring.

Ways to Work Together

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Clarity & Direction Session

Start here if you’re not sure what you need

A focused 90-minute consultation to understand what is happening, begin developing a psychological formulation and identify what would genuinely help

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You will receive clear recommendations and a written summary following our session.

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One to One Therapy

Focused, formulation-led therapy online or in person in Norwich.

I work particularly with obsessive doubt, over-responsibility, perfectionism, shame, burnout and trauma, especially where being good, helpful or competent has become tied to safety and self-worth.

Our work may draw on CBT, EMDR, compassion-focused approaches, exposure and response prevention, and Inference-Based CBT, depending on what is maintaining the difficulty and what you need.

For ongoing support

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EMDR Intensives

For focused, deeper work

EMDR intensives provide extended time to work with a particular memory, belief, trigger or recurring emotional pattern over hours or days rather than being limited to standard 50-minute appointments.

How clients describe working with me

Many people describe feeling safe and deeply understood, with therapy paced thoughtfully rather than rushed or imposed.

"EMDR helped me process memories that no longer affect me."

"We worked at my pace and built a relationship of trust."

"This was the first time therapy felt safe for me"

How we work together

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Not sure what to book? Start here

Your first step is a Clarity & Direction Session.

This is a focused, one-off session where we explore what’s going on and what would actually help.

You don’t need to have the answer,we figure that out together.

After this call, you will get a written summary of our session and next steps

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I'll guide the next steps

You’ll receive clear recommendations tailored to you.

We’ll decide together whether that’s ongoing therapy, EMDR intensives, or another approach.

You don’t need to choose in advance.

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Start with a Clarity & Direction Consultation

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Support that fits your life

Therapy is designed around you, your pace, your needs, your goals.

Sessions may be in-person in Norwich (NR1), online, or more focused intensive work.

The aim is steady, meaningful change. not just insight.

Hey, I'm Becky Grace.

I’m a BABCP Accredited CBT & EMDR Therapist and Registered Mental Health Nurse, working in Norwich (NR1) and online.

I have more than 15 years of clinical experience across NHS services, specialist teams, university mental health and disability support, and independent practice.

I work with thoughtful, highly responsible adults who feel stuck in patterns of overthinking, self-criticism, control or emotional exhaustion.

Many of the people I work with are therapists, healthcare professionals or other helpers. They are accustomed to understanding and supporting everybody else, yet may find it difficult to identify their own needs without analysing, minimising or judging them.

I am particularly interested in the point where being good, helpful and competent stops being simply a set of values and becomes something you feel you must continually prove. I call this The Good Person Trap®.

My background in mental health nursing, CBT, EMDR and neurodivergence-informed practice helps me see the organising pattern beneath an apparently complicated presentation.

My approach is warm, active and collaborative. I bring structure and clinical thinking into the room rather than leaving you to work everything out alone.

We focus on what is actually keeping the difficulty going and create change that is meaningful, manageable and sustainable.

About Becky